She Chose HerselfBOOKS · HEALING · HOPE
FOR THE WOMAN FINDING HER WAY BACK TO HERSELF
A story of survival. A space for healing. A reminder that you are worthy of safety, love, and a future of your own.
From survivor and author Lúile Ó Dubhda
WORDS THAT REACH BACK
For the woman rebuilding her life.
For the girl learning what love should feel like.
These books are a place to begin.
THE MEMOIRSURVIVAL · FAITH · FINDING YOURSELF
The story of the girl I was, the woman I became, and everything I survived along the way.
A personal journey through abuse, finding a way home, and learning to build a life rooted in self-worth, boundaries, and faith.
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FOR TEEN GIRLSHEALTHY LOVE · BOUNDARIES · GOD-GIVEN WORTH
A Christian guide for teen girls to recognizing control and remembering their worth.
A compassionate starting point for recognizing warning signs, understanding boundaries, and reaching out to a trusted adult for support.
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SUPPORT, AT YOUR PACE
Whether you are questioning a relationship, planning for safety, or healing after leaving, you deserve to be heard. You don’t need to have the perfect words to ask for help.
U.S. support, safety planning, and connections to local resources.
800-799-7233Or text START to 88788
Visit The Hotlinelove is respect offers support for questions about dating, boundaries, and relationship abuse.
866-331-9474Or text LOVEIS to 22522
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THE WOMAN BEHIND THE WORDS
Survivor. Author. A woman still becoming.
I know what it is to lose yourself in a relationship. I also know there can be life on the other side.
She Chose Herself grew from my journey through abuse and the work of learning my worth again. Leaving was part of my story. Healing, setting boundaries, and learning what healthy love looks like became another part.
My Christian faith is woven into that journey. I share it alongside my story because I want another woman to know she is loved by God, her voice matters, and she does not have to earn the right to be safe.
I write under the name Lúile Ó Dubhda for my safety. Here, I share what I have chosen to make public, with the hope that my words help someone feel less alone.
Read more through my booksHEALING & FAITH
There is no deadline for becoming yourself again. Start with the reminder you need today.
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.”
PSALM 34:18 · KJV, EXCERPTYou can pause before answering. You can choose what you share. You can ask for space. A boundary gives your needs a voice, even when saying it feels unfamiliar.
A gentle question: What is one small boundary that would give you room to breathe?
A difficult day does not erase the steps you have taken. You can miss familiar things, feel grief, and still want a healthier future. Support can meet you in the middle of those feelings.
A gentle question: Who can you reach out to when today feels heavy?
Someone else’s treatment of you does not define what you deserve. You do not have to prove you are lovable by accepting harm. You are worthy of care and respect today.
A gentle reminder: Faith and seeking help can belong together. Protecting yourself is not a failure of faith.
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